I finally got back to meditating.
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No, not hours on a cushion, envisioning a mountain top.
Five to ten minutes on my couch, next to my laundry.
I set a timer, closed my eyes, and breathed.
No perfect posture.
No incense.
A few quiet minutes, then on with my day.
It felt doable, so I did it again the next day, and the next.
Here are the three micro shifts that helped me make it work, and you can use them too.
Step #1: Make it embarrassingly small
I began with a strict 3-minute rule.
Couldn’t even make it to 5.
Embarrassing, I know.
But it was just enough time to get me over the hump of starting.
Added benefit: Turns out 3 minutes was long enough for my nervous system to feel a tangible shift.
Here’s the script I used:
Set a 3-minute timer, breathe in, and let go of doing this right.
If momentum shows up, continue.
If not, I still win.
The goal is to build the “I showed up” muscle.
That’s so much easier than “I did it perfectly” or “I got the best results!”
Remember, you’re in the building phase.
So simply showing up to your habit (no matter the form) is your main goal.
Step #2: Attach it to something you already do
Meditation finally stuck when I paired it with my morning coffee.
After I pour coffee, I sit in the same spot, open my timer, and breathe.
The coffee became my cue.
Use this formula:
“After I [current routine], I will [micro step]. “
Examples you can copy:
- After I brush my teeth at night, I will deep breathe for 3 minutes.
- After I park at work, I will sit in my car and write one text to let someone know I love/miss/or am thinking of them.
- After I start my coffee machine, I will write down my top 3 goals for the day.
- After I open my laptop, I will close my email and open my top task. Tab pinned.
- After I finish lunch, I will walk to the end of the block. Shoes by the door.
Your existing routine does the remembering for you.
No extra willpower.
Just a simple link in your day that already happens.
Step #3: Remove one inch of friction
You are not the problem.
The setup is.
I made meditation the easiest option in the room.
Airpods are on the side table.
The timer app is pinned on my phone dock.
I keep a sticky note that says “Breathe” on the table.
Tiny frictions like hunting for earbuds or scrolling for an app are where habits die.
Remove one inch of effort.
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- Pre-set a 3- or 5-minute timer.
- Pin your app.
- Choose one spot.
- Silence notifications for 10 minutes.
- Put your phone on airplane mode.
- Light a candle.
- Shut the door.
- Keep a cleared space.
- Have a playlist ready.
- Leave the weights out.
Set up your space or behavior to make the desired action easier than avoidance.
The Bottom Line
Big change doesn’t require big effort.
It requires small effort done often.
Start with a short amount of time, attach it to something you already do, and remove one inch of friction.
In other words:
- Make it tiny.
- Make it anchored.
- Make it easy.
That’s how you make habits actually stick.
So, what’s one habit you could apply this to?
Shoot me a reply so I can cheer you on.
The first step to change is to make an intention.
What’s it gonna be?
xo,
Mridu
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