I know it’s not easy to do it all.
To go after your dreams, or build a business from scratch…
Nurturing relationships and raising a family…
While silencing the inner critic that tells you you’re not good or smart or together enough.
It takes courage. It really does.
To show up every day and do the best that you can.
This is why I’m addressing the most legit thing in the way of your potential.
FEAR.
Fear keeps us stuck and settling at work, at home, and in relationships.
Personally, getting outside my comfort zone has been my #1 habit for my growth, productivity, and happiness.
It can be for you too.
I’ve struggled with self-confidence my whole life. This may be surprising because:
I speak on big stages.
I jump on live videos.
I openly write blogs and books.
But I do those “acts of confidence” only because underlying it all – I’ve developed the habit of courage.
It’s the habit that has transformed me from confusion to confidence.
From chaos to clarity.
Without consistent acts of courage, you stay stuck in patterns of stress or anxiety and see others get to levels you only wish you could achieve.
Courage never comes from being “100% ready.
When I hear from amazing women that they’re “not 100% sure about…”
- trying a new approach
- investing in themselves
- changing a service/offering
- having a hard conversation…
I want to shake them and say:
If you only make a change or decision in your comfort zone, the opportunities, growth, challenges, and excitement, will have passed you by.
Along the way, there is an opportunity cost.
The certainty you waited for, or the unwillingness to be uncomfortable will make you play small.
To step away from, instead of into, your potential. Your greatness.
Maybe this feels familiar…
You know what you should do, you’re close to making the plunge but then fear sets in.
- Fear of failure.
- Fear of exposure.
- Fear of not being liked.
- Fear of rocking the boat.
- Fear of the unknown.
So just before you say “YES!” to more empowerment, ease, proven systems, or connectivity…you find a reason to stay in your comfort zone.
As a result, you become more stressed and frustrated…even resentful.
But here’s the worst part. Seriously, the worst.
Instead of just calling it what it is: staying in your comfort zone – you find other ways to justify it which usually involves demeaning yourself.
“I’ll never make this work.”
“I can never get on top of my (insert debilitating circumstance here).”
“I’m so bad at managing my life.”
Or…
You could STOP waiting for 100% certainty, take a calculated risk, and get on with it already.
Yes, it is that simple.
If only I understood that the first three decades of my life!
It could be as simple as checking email less often.
Or creating a boundary.
Or implementing and sticking to a new system.
Yes, all acts of courage.
But until you lean into your fear, nothing will change.
This is why I’m so proud of you, willing to take the first step.
- You pick up the phone.
- You make the appointment.
- You have an honest conversation.
- You make the decision.
Everything awesome and fulfilling and rewarding is on the other side of fear. On the other side of comfort.
Stop waiting for 100% certainty.
Courage is within you.
Lean into it.
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